How To Get Your Spouse Excited About Wealth- Jerry and Lexy Fetta
So many people that I coach use this as the reason to wait on pursuing wealth. I teach my clients to become millionaires so that they can then become deca-millionaires and gain the ability to treat money like oxygen. This financially allows them to have the opportunity for complete freedom in life with no consideration of money whatsoever. It does sound great, doesn’t it? However, the road there is not easy and it does take lots of sacrifice and work. The amount of effort required to achieve this is daunting and most couples aren’t on the same page about this. I want to share with you a personal story about my wife Lexy and I so that you can see how to get full support from your spouse on creating wealth.
Last week, Lexy and I strengthened our purpose and got on the same page again. It came from a fight and a difficult situation. We were in the living room on the couch and Lexy was upset because she felt like all we ever do is work and there would be no end. I was in fact-finding mode and asking questions to get more data about what her real upset was. By the end of the conversation, I realized she forgot about our end goals. She thought all of the wakings up early, working 16 hour days, sacrificing the weekends and outings, and the obstacles we face was just our way of life forever. She believed I just enjoyed it and that was going to do that forever. You can understand why this would be upsetting. I shared my goals for us with her again and she had an enormous sense of relief. I had not communicated my goals to her in a while because I’m in work mode and she had lost clarity. It took us having a conversation about the future we are creating together and then agreeing on the amount of work it would take to get there. This is common among couples, but most do not break through the uncomfortable hard questions and set goals to keep growing and pushing.
It all starts with dissatisfaction. Nobody wants to address this, but you won’t personally decide wealth is important until you become deeply dissatisfied with where you are. It doesn’t mean you don’t like your husband or wife or your kids. It means you want more. You may have this realization and your spouse doesn’t, which can leave you feeling isolated and like it isn’t okay to talk about. It will start this way. Let me tell you, the right move is not to lead with the fact that you’re dissatisfied. You need to come up with a solution first.
The dissatisfaction leads to dreaming. Start thinking about what you’d like your life to look like. What 1s the dream you guys quit on or forgot about? Somebody will achieve those dreams, right? It’s not impossible and if someone can do it, you can do it. This is where the conversation will start. Get your spouse talking with you about your dreams together. What is it you want to do, where, with whom? Don’t worry about how you’re going to do it. Just get in agreement on what it is. This is the mistake most entrepreneurs make. They talk about the business which is the “how” and they talk about the “what” and completely disregard the purpose.
The natural sequence should be: This is where we want to go in life > This is why > This is why > We can’t get there doing what we’re doing > We need to do something different > This is what we would need to do differently to really go where we want > This is why > This is why > This is what we need to change, learn, add or be willing to give up to start > This is why > This is why > Are we committed > START!
By following this cycle, you will have your spouse on the same page. He or she will object at various times in the process, but if you know how to sell, always agree. You can keep agreement at the forefront and make progress on this.
One of the services my company offers is called a Wealth Creation Formula and it provides a 1 on 1 setting with a coach facilitating this conversation. It is an excellent way to have this conversation in a structured format. The outcome? Alignment, clarity, a better relationship, and ultimately, wealth! Click here if you would like to get more information on how to go through this process with your spouse.
Own Your Potential,
Grant Cardone Certified Coach