How to Handle Haters
Hopefully your productivity this week has been so huge that others couldn’t help but take notice of you. If you’re even slightly disappointed with your results, you have not surrendered to the “average” plague scorching our planet.
If you are rocking, the haters are coming your way and you must be prepared. If you aren’t killing it the way you should be, the haters have already gotten to you and you may not even know it.
Anytime my production falls off, I look at who I have let influence my results. You have to learn how to handle the haters and naysayers.
If the haters and naysayers aren’t affecting you, they could have gotten to your people. Look at your staff. Do you see anyone not motivated, not excited, quitting, lacking initiative and creativity? They have been affected and it’s costing you.
Face it, there are more people saying, “you can’t, you shouldn’t, it’s too risky, there’s no way,” than you have cheerleaders and supporters who believe in you. My wife Elena, (@elenacardone), my biggest supporter, describes it as a “ping” — that feeling you get when someone throws a dig at you, a judgment, or a little “criticism.”
The ping can take place when you are rolling or when you have already been derailed. Things like family members telling you, “It’s all right, everyone has bad months.” That’s ridiculous advice and you need to quit taking it in. These people spread their venom and lies without even knowing they are doing so.
The media, schools, your friends and now with the prevalence of social media, there’s an infinite number of people spewing hate, opinions and bad advice your way. There is so much of it, most people aren’t even aware it is happening.
Remember this rule, money and success follow attention and you won’t get either without attracting haters and naysayers. Also, whenever you find yourself operating below your potential, you must assume you have been affected.
Here are 5 things to remember about critics, naysayers and haters.
- Naysayers are quitters. The people who tell you that you can’t do something have already quit trying. “Become a multimillionaire, yeah right.” Naysayers are saying, “I’m a quitter and I am hoping you quit too because it will make sense of why I quit.”
- Critics and naysayers are spectators. Players don’t take feedback or criticism from spectators. Spectators rarely have success in their own lives because they are too busy spectating on the lives of the successful. I value correction and coaching from other players, but will never value criticism from naysayers or spectators.
- Never get emotional. Stay rational when you are getting “pinged” by the haters and critics. Say, “Thanks for that, I will take it into consideration.” Then throw it away. Avoid getting emotional. It messes with your productivity. Stay on course and stay rational.
- Never fear the hater, fear those who listen to him. Friends, family, and people on your team who are so weak that they buy into the hate, are more dangerous to you than the haters themselves. Get rid of the weak people that pass on critics’ garbage.
- Never waste a hater. Haters and naysayers should not be wished away but used like fuel to take you to the next level. There are so many people that have talked about how they used naysayers to inspire their success.
You want to be really successful? Remember, there has never been a successful person who wasn’t criticized, hated on, or underestimated. Make this your life quote in handling the haters, “One week they like me, the next week they hate me, both weeks I get paid.”
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Be great, nothing else pays much.