Are You on the Same Page or Do You Just Copulate?
How many of you have a dream marriage? We all want that, right? While nobody is perfect, you want to shoot for the best relationship you can have in life. If you’re going to be monogamous, you need to go all the way and make sure it works.
A lot of guys may know where to put it but that doesn’t mean they know what she wants or what her goals are. You can’t keep a marriage together just on sex. You keep a marriage together by being on the same page.
Many couples out there are on opposite pages and it just doesn’t work. You can keep it going for a time but you’ll both be frustrated. You must get on the same page as your spouse to keep your marriage together.
Here are 3 things you must do in order to have not a good, but a great marriage:
1. Mutual goals—Every great marriage has one thing in common, and that’s the fact that you have goals, and you share those goals, and then you make goals together based on your dreams and aspirations. How many of you have sat down with your spouse—recently—and talked about goals? Not just a to-do list but where you want to be in 3, 5, and 10 years from now. You need mutual goals in a long-term relationship.
2. Those goals need to be big, with big rewards—don’t get tiny here. Guys, we all know that bigger is better, and that tiny won’t get it done in the bedroom, the boardroom, or the goal room. So go ahead and dream big, dream huge. You want $500-million dollars? Good. Let it be known. The worst thing you can do is pretend that you don’t want to have it all. The truth is, big goals will keep you going because the payoff is worth the pursuit. People quit when goals are too small.
3. Reinforce those goals daily—It’s never enough to go over things just once. Never do just one of anything. I’ve said before that anything worth doing is worth doing more than once. I meet with my wife every week to go over our big goals, and then each day we reinforce those goals by the things we do and say to each other. Don’t just talk about your goals and then not bring them up again for 6 months or wait until New Year’s to readdress them. Remind each other continually of your mutual goals.
What kind of payoffs are you shooting for? Are you both shooting for it together? Sit down with your spouse and talk about your goals today. Make sure you don’t have small goals. Have big goals that get you excited! The kind of goals that will keep you motivated day after day. Great marriages don’t just happen, they are created. Your marriage will never be what you want it to be if you don’t work your ass off to get it and keep it that way. Big mutual payoffs… aim for that and work for it every day.
Hope that helps,
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